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This is one of over 150 articles focused on healing psychological
building
family relationships, breaking the [wounds + unawareness]
and
divorce. This introduction describes the Web
site's purpose and the best ways to use its resources. Each article
is part of a mosaic of ideas, so the more
you read, the more sense they'll all make.
These articles augment, vs. replace, other
professional help. The "/" in re/marriage and re/divorce
notes that it may be a stepparent's first union. "Co-parents" means both
bioparents, or any of the
related stepparents and bioparents co-managing a multi-home nuclear
stepfamily.
Before continuing, reflect: why are you reading this -
what do you
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One of five major co-parent
is
of relationship and stepfamily basics.
Patient study and
discussion of these articles and resources with your other family adults and
suppor-ters can help you reduce this hazard and protect you all from possible
divorce.
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Bookmark this page as a self-education hub to
grow aware of stepfamily basics. Note the similar hubs for
re/marriage and
co-parenting. Expect to take
weeks to patiently absorb this vital knowledge. For helpful context, start with these:
Consider investing in the
guidebooks
that integrate most of these Web pages. Also note these
foundation articles.
Generally, read and discuss the articles in this table from the top down, left to right. Use these articles to augment, not replace,
other competent
~30 traits of a
high nurturance family.
How many did or does your family have? |
How too little childhood emotional nurturance causes normal
psychological wounding,- and what that
means
to you and your kids |
An introduction to personal wound-recovery; and the
12
steps for survivors of low-nurturance childhoods. |
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Who's really been running your life? Meet your
inner family,
and your true and "false" selves |
What
does a typical three-generational stepfamily look like? A
genogram
(family map) |
Typical
surface stepfamily problems vs. the underlying
primary problems |
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Basics: (a) stepfamily facts you
need to know,
and (b) a profile of
typical new stepfamily adults and kids. |
Learn the three ways typical multi-home stepfamilies can
develop and turn out over several years. |
Vital: accept your identity
as a normal multi-home stepfamily, and... |
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...Prevent or resolve stepfamily membership conflicts: agree together
on who belongs to your family. |
In some ways, typical stepfamilies are just like intact biofamilies
- and paradoxically... |
they also (a) differ in ~33 structural ways, and have...
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(b) ~30
family-adjustment tasks
that typical intact biofamilies don't have. |
Quiz: 60
common stepfamily myths, and typical realities.
How many do you know? |
Quiz: How many of
these basic life skills do you have now? |
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Why stepfamily mission
statements and clear co- parent "job
descriptions" are essential. |
Learn and use
stepfamily terms
to combat confusions and fuzzy communications |
What all new steppeople must
merge together, resolve
many conflicts
about, and stabilize, over four or more years. |
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Inventory
your stepfamily strengths! |
Learn how to map the structure of your
multi-home stepfamily. Is it healthy? |
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 Now add these
co-parenting basics and re/marriage basics
+ + +
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