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This article provides
links to all Project 3 articles in this divorce-prevention Web site.
What is Family
Project 3?
Ideally during courtship, both co-parents...
-
accept your
stepfamily
identity, (vs. "No, we're just
a family"),
-
encourage other family adults and kids to do the same,
and...
-
work
together to identify and resolve membership (inclusion/rejection) conflicts
among your related
Why? Because
typical multi-home
stepfamilies differ from intact biofamilies in over
60
ways. These
differences create over 50 common myths
(unrealistic expectations) about stepfamily
development,
and
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Unless all
co-parents genuinely accept their stepfamily identity ("Yes, we are a
stepfamily."), they risk (a) not
realizing that these
apply to
them and their kids, and (b) ignoring or minimizing these
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That promotes escalating dissatisfaction and frustrations, and
eventual re/divorce trauma for your adults and kids. Many authors estimate
(without supportive Census data) that well over half of typical US
stepfamily mates re/divorce legally within 10 years of their commitments. An
unknown number of families endure the toxic effects of psychological
re/divorce.
Progress at these Project-3 goals is essential for motivation to do
- learn stepfamily basics, convert over 50 common myths into realistic role
and relationship expectations, and teach these to your family members.
The best time to progress at
Projects 3 and 4 is during co-parent courtship. This creates the best
odds of making
for you and any dependent and future kids.
The
Web address of this article is http://sfhelp.org/03/links03.htm