Project 8 of 12 for high-nurturance families and relationships
	PROJECT 8 - Link INDEX Steadily Nurture Your Marriage, and Keep it Second

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 PROJECT 8 (ongoing): Co-parents intentionally build and maintain a high-nurturance marriage together, and keep it #2 behind personal wholistic health, integrity, and inner- wound recovery. This goal builds on co-parent Projects 1-7, which focus on each partner making three wise courtship decisions for themselves and any  dependents and descendents.

Why? Because it's estimated that almost half of recent U.S. marriages fail legally, and millions more endure psychological divorce. It's also estimated that a greater percentage of remarriages fail - usually in middle age - despite partners' maturity and prior experience. Committing to Project 8 (of 12) together protects adults and any dependent kids from the enormous trauma of a family split-up - and the serious psychological wounding that always precedes it.

The gateway to long-term bliss is making three informed court-ship choices: co-parents choosing the right people, for the right reasons, at the right time. 

The guidebook Stepfamily Courtship and the related free 8-module re/marriage-preparation course can help suitors do that together. The practical guidebook for Project 8 is The Remarriage Book - Overcome common stressors together (xlibris.com)
 

These Project-8 articles are divided into basic subjects and solutions to specific (surface) problems

Re/marriage - Basics

Review:

• these comments about the U.S. re/divorce epidemic, and these five reasons for it;

• 5/07 news article summarizing opinions on the possible 30-year decline in U.S. divorce rates.

• these questions and answers about courtship and remarriage 

• :Premises about a healthy relationship

• 16 courtship danger signs

• Worksheet - Picking the right partner to re/wed

• this introduction to the invisible [wounds + ignorance] cycle - slides or text

• this slide presentation on divorce and divorce recovery

Page # and title:

  8-1)  Project 8 Overview

8-2)  Two keys for forging and keeping a healthy re/marriage

8-3)   Five more keys to long-term stepfamily re/marriage success

8-4)  Planning a successful stepfamily co-parent wedding and honeymoon (4 pages)

8-5)  Worksheet:  Our relationship traits and values

8-6)  Worksheet: Our relationship's strengths and stressors

8-7)  Worksheet: ranking our recent priorities 

8-8)  Basics for solving re/marital problems

8-9)  Perspective on the many meanings of "divorce"

8-10)  29 alternatives to re/divorce - the "/" notes it may be one mate's first.  (4 pages)

Re/marriage - Solutions to Specific Problems

Review - premises for resolving any relationship problem

8-11)  Options for dealing with a psychologically-wounded mate (2 pages)

8-12)  Options for resolving mates' problems with anger

8-13)  Options for adapting to a mate's addiction (2 pages)

Review: Signs of relationship addiction (codependence).

8-14)  Options for resolving boundary problems between mates

8-15)  Options for improving communication effectiveness between mates (2 pages)

Review: "Avoiding Couple Karate - Lessons in the Marital Arts," by Anthony Brandt

Review: Spotting and dissolving (Persecutor - Victim - Rescuer) relationship triangles

8-16)  Options for reducing re/marital problems relating to a dead ex mate

8-17)  Options for responding to a mate's depression (2 pages)

8-18)  Perspective on same-gender partnerships  (3 pages)

Review: How neuro-chemical and social gender differences affect your relationship

8-19)  Options for improving re/marital honesty

8-20)  Options for improving re/marital intimacy

8-21)  Options for resolving re/marital love dissatisfactions

8-22) - Options for reducing re/marital loyalty conflicts

8-23)  Options for resolving the primary causes of disputes over money

8-24)  Options for improving "we don't have enough time together"

8-25)  Options for reducing re/marital stress from prejudices

8-26)  29 alternatives to re/divorce

8-27)  Options for improving re/marital respect

Review: “Respect – the Heart of Every Successful Marriage,” by Annie Gottlieb

8-28)  Options for improving marital sex

8-29)  Options for reducing partners' disputes over stepfamily identity

Review: Excerpt on (stepfamily) "marriage" from "Shadow Dancing in the USA" by Michael Ventura

8-30)  Options for improving marital teamwork

8-31)  Options for improving trust between mates

Popup: summary of common re/marital problems and links to solution-options.

Review: Project 1,  Project 2,  Project 5, Project 11, and  Project 12 - all nourish re/marriage

 References: selected readings and inspirations.

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Updated October 02, 2008