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http://sfhelp.org/basics/menu-rlns.htm
If you
have a stepfamily relationship problem, go here.
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This article provides links to practical articles in this nonprofit Web
site about solving common relationship problems among (a) your
(internal
stressors) and (b) people (social stressors).
Get the most from these articles by first reading...
this summary of
requisites for a healthy
relationship;
these basic
premises about
relationship problems;
these
Q&A
items on relationships;
this framework for
analyzing
complex
relationship problems accurately, and...
this framework for
solving well-analyzed
problems effectively.
Many average men and women don't know what they don't know
about growing satisfying rela-tionships and families. To gauge what you may need
to learn, try these self-assessment
quizzes on...
To gain information on these vital topics,
make (vs. find) undistracted time to read these
foundation articles
when your
is steadily
your
Primary Problems
|
The
stressors below can burden relationships between people or personality
subselves in any
setting. Premise - each of them is a symptom of
false self
and
in one or both
people or subselves. In other words, each of the items below is a secondary
problem. |
Implication: to solve any relationship problem
permanently requires that you commit to...
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psychological wounds and unawareness in
yourself via basic education, and
tailoring and using the ideas in
and...
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Learning how to use effective communication
basics and
to avoid and resolve common communication
blocks; and...
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learning to spot and respond to significant
and
in
kids and other
adults.
Are you committed to these tasks
now? Who's
that question -
(capital "S") or
Common Secondary Relationship
Problems
Each link below leads to an article offering perspective on the problem,
resolution options, referen-ces, and (often), illustrations. Some articles
pertain to stepfamily relationships, and will be generalized in the near future.
Unlinked items have no article yet. All articles are linked to each other,
relevant work-sheets, and resources. If you
don't see the topic you're interested in, try
searching the site.
The problems in bold type deserve special focus.
Do you have an
effective way of reacting to each secondary stressor with kids and important adults?
If not, why?
Notice common relationship stressors that aren't included above, like
conflicts over money, jobs, dwellings, vehicles, trips, in-laws, intimacy,
ex mates, health, ecology, vacations, religion, kids, sex, friends,
politics, hobbies, personal health, etc. Each of these is a surface
problem caused by one or more of the secondary stressors above.
Seen all together, this is a pretty daunting list, isn't it? If you decided
to master one of these 64 relationship problems each week, you'd have them all under your
belt in - a little over a year. Thge benefits from doing this will last the
rest of your life.
Do you feel your childhood caregivers and
teachers showed you how to master each of these well enough? Do you think
anyone showed them how? Are you teaching any kids in your life how to
understand and master them?
The good news is - if you commit to mastering the two common root
causes of these relationship problems -
and
- they'll
all diminish! See
this series of stress-prevention articles
for perspective, options, and inspiration.
Recap
This
is a link-index to Web site articles offering (a) perspective on, and (b)
effective resolution options for, common relationship problems. Many of
these articles apply to dynamics between person-ality subselves, as well as
between people. The index starts with links to foundation readings that are
best studied before following the indexed articles. If these links don't
lead you to what you need, try the site search engine or directory (links
below).
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