Identify Primary Needs

Most people cause and endure relationship stress by focusing on surface needs, and avoiding responsibility for filling their primary needs. This is specially likely for people whose personality is ruled by a false self. Inner focus and true-Self leadership allows "digging down" through four levels of awareness to identify primary needs and who they "belong" to:

1)  Denials - I have no false-self wounds
 and no problem (unmet needs) now.

2)  Blame - I have no wounds - and I do have a
(surface, secondary) problem which you must fix.

3)  Semi-aware - I have no psychological wounds, and I am half
 responsible for my (surface) problem. You must fix the other half.

4) Aware - I am wounded and I am fully responsible
for identifying and filling my primary needs.

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