If you feel sure that all parts of the item apply, check the item. Together, the
checks
form a profile of your current personal assets.
Each non-checked item is an opportunity to
choose or grow that asset. If you think of
other assets, write them in!
As I begin, I’m aware of...
Profile: My Personal Strengths and Assets
Five personal assets you've
been developing for years are...
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your
wholistic health,
-
your knowledge and wisdom,
-
your awareness,
-
your key
attitudes and values, and...
-
your personal traits and relationship skills.
Check each of these you feel sure of...
1)
My Wholistic Health
__
1) I
_ clearly acknowledge the spiritual aspect of myself now, and _
I feel sure that I’m evolving in a way that
often uses my growing spiritual strength, intuition, and inspiration.
__ 2) I regularly draw meaningful help from
my Higher Power when times get tough.
__
3) I _ meditate and/or
pray in stressful times, and _ I often feel refreshed, empowered, and enlightened
when I do; or I’m currently learning how to do this.
__
4) I’m usually _
aware of my current
emotions; and can _ name and _ express them clearly and safe-ly _ without
undue guilt, shame, or anxiety. I _ often use significant emotions as indicators of what
I need.
__
5) I _ regularly pay attention to my day and
night dreams, hunches, intuitions, and "senses," and _ balance their
apparent meanings with my rational thoughts enough, in forming my daily decisions.
__
6) I consistently
_
give my physical health high priority, and _ I feel serene about...
_ the quality of my nutrition
and diet,
_ the amounts and kinds of exercise and rest I give myself,
_ my
ways of coping with
and
_ my prompt, responsible use of
appropriate medical services and medicines when I need them.
__
7) I have _ thoroughly
assessed whether I have any
of the six
If I do, I’m
_
steadily working at recovery
_ because of self respect, vs. fear, shame, or "duty."
__
8) I _ often feel well-balanced in
attending my daily spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical needs; and
_
others who know me describe me as "well-balanced" and
"centered." I _ usually balance work, rest, and play well enough.
__
9) I’m _ clear enough
about my
life's purpose and _ I’m developing
effective ways of
fulfilling it.
__ 10)
__ 11)
Overall, do you see your wholistic health as a major personal asset now?
2)
My Knowledge and Wisdom
Two major assets you're developing every day are (a) what you know about
yourself and the world, and (b) how you use your knowledge (your
wisdom). Your growing knowledge ranges between essential (for managing
life challenges) to specialized (for your profession or hobbies) to
non-essential (like how ants communicate).
Premise - Each of the self-improvement Lessons in this nonprofit Web site
offers essential knowledge.
__
12) I _ have studied
:Lesson 1 (reduce psychological wounds)
thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of these
questions now.
__
13) I _ have studied Lesson 2
(communication skills) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of
these questions now.
__
14) I _ have studied
Lesson 3 (bonding, losses, and
healthy grief) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of
these questions now.
__
15) I _ have studied Lesson
4 (satisfying relationships) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer
most of these questions now.
__
16) I _ have studied Lesson 5
(high-nurturance families) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of
these questions now.
__
17) I _ have studied Lesson 6
(effective parenting) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of
these questions now.
__
18) (if appropriate) I
_ have studied Lesson 7 (healthy
stepfamilies) thoroly, and _ I can confidently answer most of
these questions now.
__
19) I can clearly
describe _ the [wounds + unawareness]
and _ at least four of its
to an average older teen.
__
20) I have enough knowledge to live comfortably as an
independent adult.
__
21)
__
22)
Pause, stretch, and recall why you're inventorying your personal assets.
What are you aware of, so far?
Overall, do you feel your knowledge is a significant personal asset now?
If you need more knowledge, what ad why? Your next asset is...
3)
My Awarenesses
Would you agree that some people are more aware than others? How
would you define "awareness" to a pre-teen?
It is a learnable trait. The greater
your awareness, the more choices you have to live the way you want to.
From one (rarely aware) to ten (always very aware), how aware are you
recently?___
Read this perspective, and then
see what you think.
__ 23) I am
consistently aware of _ my dynamic
subselves
and _ whether my true Self is
me in all situations and relationships.
__ 24) I'm
consistently aware of my emotions in calm and stressful situations,
and _ I know how to bene-fit from each of them.
__ 25) I'm usually
aware of my mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs
(discomforts) in all situa-tions and relationships.
__ 26) I'm usually
aware of _ my primary attitudes about important relationships,
behaviors, morals, and topics (e.g. abortion and euthanasia), and _ how my
attitudes affect my life quality.
__ 27) I'm usually
aware of _ being a dynamic spiritual part of the universe, and _ of
my Higher Power's affect on my life and our environment
__ 28) I'm usually
aware of the verbal and nonverbal
between me and other people in important situations.
__ 29) I'm _ often
aware of my senses, hunches, and intuitions, and _ I factor them into
my decisions.
__ 30) I'm often
able to see trends and changes by being aware of the past and the present.
__ 31) I'm steadily
aware of my life's purpose, or I'm aware of how I am seeking to recognize it.
__ 32) I'm aware of my responsibility to manage my impact on the local and
global
environment.
Rate your recent awareness from one to ten again. ___.
Overall, do you feel your
awareness is a significant personal asset? Could you benefit by
improving it?
4) My Key
Beliefs and Attitudes
Premise - attitudes are semi-conscious right/wrong,
bad/better/good, acceptable/unacceptable safe/unsafe, judgments we all make
about many things - including ourselves. Our primary attitudes significantly
shape who and what stresses us.
__ 33)
I believe people are basically good and mean well.
__ 34) I believe
all personality subselves mean well, tho they may be misinformed and/or
unaware.
__ 35)
I believe there is a responsive, benign Higher power available to me and all
other people.
__ 36)
I believe every adult and child has
basic human rights like these.
__ 37)
I believe each of us has the unquestionable right to decide if, how, and
when to end our life
__ 38)
I believe there are no inherently evil persons - only badly wounded,
uninformed people.
__ 39) I accept that interpersonal conflict in any
relationship and group is normal and inevitable.
__ 40)
I believe respect, trust, and
love must be earned, not expected or demanded.
__ 41) I
believe every able adult is responsible for her or his own happiness.
__ 42)
I believe all people are equals in dignity and worth, regardless of race,
color, gender, age, ethnicity, occupation, education, wealth, or faith.
__ 43)
I believe caring for my Self is just as important as caring for other
people.
__ 44)
I believe that we humans have a moral responsibility to care for the Earth
and preserve its resources for future generations.
__ 45)
I believe couples have the moral responsibility to prepare themselves fully
before conceiving chil- dren
(i.e. study Lessons 1 through 6 here).
__ 46)
I believe that divorce is justified
and humane if couples have tried every other resource.
__ 47)
I believe that relying on medications to ease psychological problems usually
prolongs them.
__ 48)
I believe all
adults and kids need help and encouragement from time to time.
__
49) I believe every adult is responsible for understand the
[wounds + unawareness] cycle and doing what they can
to protect future generations from it.
__
50) I believe personal freedom
is a privilege, not a birthright
__ 51) I
believe violence, aggression, and abuse are proof of psychological wounding,
and are morally wrong.
__ 52) I
believe that no person has the right to impose their spiritual or political
beliefs on other persons - . specially on children.
__ 53) I
believe that each adult and child has the right to form and live by their
own attitudes and beliefs, and must accept the consequences of
them.
__ Add your own key
attitudes and beliefs you regard as personal assets.
5)
Personal Traits and Skills
Some of these are universal assets, and others are individual.
__ 54) I _ respect myself, and
_ most other people respect me as a person and in key family roles.
__ 55)
I _ rarely see others as having
more or less human dignity and worth than I do. _ My needs, thoughts, feelings, and goals are just as
important as anyone else’s, and _ others’ needs, opinions, and
feelings - including kids' - are
just as important as mine.
__ 56) I _ usually enjoy being with most adults and
kids, and _ am clearly capable of bonding (forming a healthy
emotional attachment) with selected others.
__
57) My own experience and others’ feedback
suggests that my thinking is usually focused, clear,
"rational," and usually productive.
__ 58) I can
_ clearly assess what toxic
(shame, guilt, and anxiety-producing)
relationships and settings are, and I _ am consistently competent at avoiding them.
__ 59) I am reasonably or very empathic
with others – I can often accurately sense what they feel and need,
without major judgment or bias.
__ 60) I’m reasonably comfortable with
interpersonal conflicts, and accept them when they arise (vs. with-drawing, numbing out,
threatening, freaking out, controlling, pretending, or denying).
__ 61) I often practice
each of the seven communication
effectively with kids and adults - i.e. I’m often effective at
promoting win-win
__ 62) I regularly
appreciate and verbally
affirm ("thanks for...") other people genuinely, vs. dutifully or intellectually.
__ 63) If I’m
thoughtless, selfish, or rude, I’m _ comfortable apologizing
genuinely and promptly for those behaviors, and _ truly accepting
apologies from others (forgiving) if they do the same.
__ 64) I’m comfortable
enough with strong emotions
– specially anger, fear, and guilt - in myself and with others.
__ 65) I generally
tell the truth to _ myself, and _ all important
others in my life.
__ 66) I’m usually comfortable
compromising
with others, when we conflict.
__ 67) I can often
genuinely be a team player, vs. over-independent ("aloof"),
selfish, and/or controlling.
__ 68) I _ can describe
"codependence" (relationship
addiction) accurately, and
_ I'm clear I don’t have that personality condition.
__ 69) I’m usually
comfortable
asserting what I need and what's acceptable to me, and setting clear limits
(boundaries) with others (saying "no", or "not now"), without undue guilt, shame, or
anxiety.
__ 70) I can _
comfortably support
other people without losing my integrity,
and _ I’m usually comfortable about requesting and accepting
support from others, when I need it.
__ 71) If I’m divorced,
I _ have clearly resolved all significant
shame, guilt, and anger at myself and my former spouse/s
– or _ I’m working productively on that now.
__ 72) I know how to
and I'm promoting a pro-grief home and family now.
__ 73) I can _ tell the
difference between anger and frustration, and _ I live from a healthy policy
about feeling, expressing, and reacting to others' anger now.
__ 74) More personal assets. This table of traits is illustrative, not
absolute. Premise - each quality and trait like these is brought to you by one or more of your talented
personality subselves:
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Sensitivity
Ability to love
Ability to assert
Self-love
Personal balance
Reasoned courage
Spiritual awareness
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Decisiveness
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Creativity
-
Flexibility
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Ability to focus
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Clear thinking
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Realistic optimism
Patience
Common sense
Integrity and dignity
Curiosity
Strength and resilience
Analyzing and planning
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Foresight and vision
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Tenderness
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Self trust
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Clear priorities
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Forgiveness
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Self-encouragement
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Imagination
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Humility + pride
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Compassion
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Healthy humor
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Persistence
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Commitment
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Social; tolerance
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Serenity and peace
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Make your own list of personal traits and talents like these. Option: ask
people who know you to give you their opinions.
Pause, breathe, and notice your thoughts and feelings. What did you just
learn? Have you ever seen an inventory of personal assets like this before?
Did you realize how many assets you have (and can de-velop)? If there are
young people in your life, is someone helping them affirm their set of
developing assets?
Recap
This Lesson-1 article offers you the chance to inventory five kinds of
personal assets:
-
your wholistic (mental + spiritual +
physical + emotional) health ,
-
your knowledge and wisdom,
-
your awareness,
-
your key
attitudes and values, and...
-
your personal traits and relationship skills.
Use
this inventory to help you reduce any significant psychological wounds,
and/or to combat situational feelings of weakness, anxiety, self-doubt, and
overwhelm. Where ever you go - these assets go with you!
+ + +
Reflect: why did you begin reading this - did you get what you needed? If
not, what
you need? Who's
these questions - your wise resident
or
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