The Unseen [ Wounds + Unawareness ] Cycle

        My work as a family therapist, researcher, and educator since 1979 suggests this premise: (a) Your family, (b) many of the people you work with and for, and (c) most of your fellow citizens, may suffer significant stress, loss, and heartache because of this invisible cycle:

Widespread public ignorance, unawareness, and denial promote...

Public and religious values, traditions, and laws that allow couples to marry
and conceive children before they're qualified to do so, which causes...

Epidemic unwise (a) marital and (b) child-conception choices +
ineffective communication, grieving, and parenting. So...

Typical young kids get inadequate nurturing and training on these topics at
home and school; So most of them develop significant psychological wounds, and...

must adapt to parental psychological or legal divorce, because
their wounded, unaware caregivers aren't able to fill their marital needs.

Survivors of this cycle grow up and - without [ an awakening + self-motivated
 personal healing + effective help ] -
unconsciously repeat and spread the cycle.

The spreading wounds and ignorance in our society promote...

  • significant public health problems and shorter lives, and...

  • most major social problems like obesity, homelessness, "mental illness," depression,  child, self, and elder neglect and abuse; domestic violence; addictions; and most crime.

     Once citizens, parents, and legislators are aware of this cycle and its escalating toxic impacts,

they (we) can break the cycle through appropriate education, recovery programs, and new laws.

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