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A vexing communication block occurs when one person requests or demands something from another that can only be given spontaneously - like trust, love, interest, acceptance, appreciation, desire, and respect. If the second person tries to comply, the first person may then say - "You're just doing that because I asked you to, not because you really mean it." Examples: "You never say 'I love you'"; "I demand that you respect my wishes!"; "You need to respect the sacrifices I'm making for you"; and "I need you to initiate sex more often." The antidote to this block is [ mutual knowledge of this concept + mutual communication awareness + the second person asserting something like "You're asking me to give you something that has to be spontaneous" + both people digging down to identify the underlying relationship needs that are causing this situation.] Project 2 is about effective communication. Project 2 link-index / Other communication blocks / close |
"Be spontaneous!" Paradoxes