About Trust Disorders

         All creatures constantly judge whether their environment safe (will not cause significant injury, pain, or death). "I trust you" means "I believe you will not cause me significant pain or injury." One of six psychological wounds that typical survivors of low-nurturance childhoods bear is trusting too easily (and being repeatedly used and betrayed), or excessive distrust - which hinders genuine bonding and intimacy.

        Excessive distrust can include (a) doubting one's own judgment and behavior ("I know if I go to Las Vegas, I'll spend too much and regret it."), and/or (b) ignoring, minimizing, or rejecting the support and wise guidance of a loving Higher Power. Like the other five wounds, excessive trust or distrust indicates the person's personality is ruled by a false self. In this site, family Project 1 focuses on understanding and assessing for false-self wounds, and reducing them over time. False-self wounds appear to be very common, and are one of five reasons for the U.S. (re)divorce epidemic and most social problems. Do you know anyone with a "trust disorder"?

        Also see these articles on improving trust between mates, ex-mates, and stepparents and stepkids.

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