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Would people who know you describe you as too cynical (distrustful of human nature and motives)? Do you know an adult or child who seems unusually hin-dered by doubts (uncertainties)? This site proposes that normal personalities are made up of a group of semi-independent subselves, which explains traits like these. The devoted Guardian subself that causes significant cynicism is usually trying to protect one or more Inner Children from the agony of trusting someone or something, and then being betrayed or disappointed (again). This subself may also guard the Shamed Child and Guilty Child against pain from personal "failures" (self doubt), and from expecting something pleasurable that never happens (doubting others, Nature, and a benign, responsive Higher Power). Some people evolve separate Cynic and Doubter subselves, as well as a Pessimist / Skeptic When any of these common Guardians are overactive, they and other subselves are part of a false self - they control the person because they don't yet trust the true Self (capital "S") and other Regular subselves to protect the Inner Kids effectively and keep the person safe and healthy. This can also be true of zealous Idealist / Optimist subselves in kids and adults. Self-motivated personal recovery (Project 1) corrects this over time, by inviting Guardians and young subselves to (a) become aware of each other's talents, roles and their common purposes, and (b) evolve trust in the Self and other Regulars + a nurturing Higher Power + healthy people to reliably keep the Inner Kids and host person safe and calm enough in all situations. detail / slides / Project-1 guidebook & links / skeptical? / Q&A / close |
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