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People who are "over-anxious" or unusually timid and nervous are usually dominated by personality subselves including a Scared Child. How often have you felt scared or terrified? All subselves can feel anxious or fearful at times. The Scared Child subself feels significant fear more intensely, more quickly, and more often than other subselves. Developmentally, s/he may range from a wordless infant to a pre-teen. S/He comes from the person having experiencing childhood trauma like abandonment or abuse too early, too often. S/He is naive, knowing little of the real world. People may have several Scared Children of different ages. When they activate and take over our true Self, we feel their fear, and think their thoughts. Adults raised in low-nurturance environments appear to automatically develop Guardian subselves who ceaselessly protect a group of young subselves (Inner Children). Typical Guardians dedicated to protecting one or more Scared Children (and others) include the Catastrophizer, Cynic / Doubter, Pessimist, Fantasizer, and Controller. When a child or adult is dominated by these subselves too often, s/he can be called fear-based. They usually exhibit behaviors like these. Excessive fear is one of six common false-self wounds that relentlessly inhibit life quality and healthy relationships. Project 1 here offers a framework for (a) identifying personality subselves and (b) intentionally harmonizing them under the wise guidance of the resident true Self. Part of this reorganizing is finding viable ways to calm the Scared Child(ren) and Guardian subselves by increasing their trust in Regulars' ability to avoid major pain - unlike early-childhood caregivers. An effective way of harmonizing subselves is called Inner-family therapy, or "(personality) parts work." more detail / slides / Project-1 guidebook and index / research / Q&A / close |
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