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This free educational site is devoted to
breaking a toxic ancestral [wounds + unawareness]
cycle that stresses us all
(you) directly and/or indirectly. The site content is a free seven-lesson self-improvement course.
This article summarizes the content of each lesson, and provides links to
them. Each lesson includes articles, worksheets,
quizzes, resources, a link index, and a hyperlinked study guide. These lessons
build on each other, so study them in order.
This YouTube video clip overviews these seven lessons:
This unique course is based on my
31
years' research and experience as a family and trauma-recovery therapist,
blended with the wisdom of scores of wise teachers and clinicians. The
course integrates theories on
personalities + communication + grief + relationships + families + parenting.
In working with well over 1,000 average women and men in my
therapy practice and classes, I have never met one adult who
had integrated these topics into an effective lifestyle. Nor
have I seen any course like this one.
Most people (like you?) are unaware of what you'll find in this
practical course. That means that their (your) kids and grandkids are unaware too.To understand why this course and site exist,
please study these first...
the introduction to
this nonprofit, ad-free Web site,
How to Break the lethal [wounds + unawareness] Cycle
Course
Outline
Lesson 1: Assess yourself for
psychological wounds, and reduce any you find by freeing your
true Self to guide you.
Lesson 2:
Learn to think, communicate, and problem-solve effectively.
Lesson 3:
Learn about bonding, losses, and healthy grieving, and grow pro-grief
relationships.
Lesson 4:
Learn relationship basics, and optimize your
relationships.
Lesson 5: Learn family basics, and evolve a high-nurturance
("functional") family
Lesson 6:
Learn effective-parenting basics, and raise Grown Nurtured
Children (GNCs)
Lesson
7: Apply Lessons 1-6 to evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily
and avoid probable psychological or legal re/divorce.
The final sections of this Web site are...
Optionsfor alerting other people to the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and how
to break it; and...
Suggestions to
human-service professionals on how to use these ideas to help
clients reduce psychological wounds and increase the
nurturance-level of their families. (under construction).
Lesson Outlines
The links below will take you to the
study guide for each lesson.
LESSON 1)
WOUND REDUCTION. A high majority of average women and men are unaware of
carrying up to six specific psychological wounds from early-childhood
trauma. This Lesson shows you how assess for wounds and reduce them by
freeing your true Self to guide you. This
keystone Lesson has four
self-improvement modules:
Learn about personality
subselves and Grown Wounded Children (GWCs);
Assess yourself for
up to six psychological wounds;
Evolve and work an effective plan
to free your true Self and reduce your wounds; and...
Learn how to spot and
relate to other wounded people
To sample Lesson-1 topics,
see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON 2)
COMMUNICATION -
Effective communication is essential for all relationships, families,
and organizations - yet our ancestors and schools don't teach these basics
and seven skills.
Test this by taking this
quiz. This lesson has four modules:
Basic concepts - what you need to know.
Seven powerful skills. If you can't name
them, you're not profiting from them.
Useful communication tools and resources,
and...
Key applications of these basics and skills.
To sample
Lesson-2 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON 3) "GOOD GRIEF" -
Unawareness and
ignorance of healthy grief promotes incomplete grief. That
promotes significant psychological and physical principles blems like
"depression," addictions, obesity, and diabetes. These four modules
show you how to spot and finish incomplete grief, and grow a "pro-grief" family.
"Good grief" basics - what you and
your kids need to know about bonds, losses, and healthy grief;
Assess yourself for incomplete grief.
Complete any unfinished grief, and form new
bonds.
Learn to support other grievers effectively
To sample
Lesson-3 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON
4)
RELATIONSHIPS -
A major part of the thriving counseling and therapy industry exists
because millions of people"can't get along with" (relate to) each other. The primary reason is
widespread psychological wounds and ignorance of Lessons 1 thru 4.
This Lesson provides effective-relationship basics and how to apply them to relationships
with your subselves (inner family); Higher Power; your family members, kids, and
other adults.
The lesson
has four sequential
modules:
Relationship basics; and how to...
analyze and solve relationship problems;
harmonize relationships among your
personality subselves;
and...
manage primary relationships with a mate and your
Higher Power...
To sample
Lesson-4 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON 5)
FAMILY - The current American family norm is dysfunction, as judged by
our many social problems. Use Lessons 1-4 to
understand the ingredients of a high-nurturance family.
Then assess the
nurturance level
of your childhood and current families, and improve the current level as
needed. Lesson modules:
Basic concepts you need to know about all
families (like yours)
Traits of a high-nurturance ("functional") family
Identify and resolve typical "family
problems" using knowledge and skills from Lessons 1 thru 4
To sample
Lesson-5 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON 6)PARENTING - Unseen psychological wounds are epidemic because of
widespread early-childhood trauma - parental wounds, ignorance,
abandonment, abuse, and neglect. This Lesson outlines the developmental and special
needs of kids and teens, and how to fill those needs
(to
nurture) effectively.
Lesson modules:
Normal developmental needs of typical minor
kids, and...
Effective-parenting basics, including...
communicating effectively with children and teens,
and...
guidelines for effective child discipline.
To sample
Lesson-6 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
LESSON 7) STEPFAMILIES
-
Sociologists estimate that typical U.S. stepfamily re/marriages fail more
often than first-marriage families. From
31 years' study
and counseling over 1,000 stepfamily adults, This Lesson provides stepfamily basics,
and applies Lessons 1 thru 6 toward growing a stable, high-nurturance
re/marriage and stepfamily. Sequential modules:
Learn stepfamily basics and realities;
Essential courtship education - make three
informed choices to avoid probable re/divorce;
Stepkids' special needs, and effective coparenting (stepparenting and
bioparenting); and...
Avoid or resolve common stepfamily role and relationship problems.
To sample
Lesson-7 topics, see these YouTube
video clips.
The final section of this Web site (formerly "Lesson 8") is...
Apply this knowledge: alert other people to the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
cycle
and its effects, and encourage them to end it.
Options:
Use your awareness and knowledge from this
course to build a high-nurturance family and protect your descendents
from the [wounds + unawareness] cycle. As you do...
Alert other people to the cycle
and its effects, and their
options for breaking it.
How human-service professionals can use
these Lessons to help patients, clients, and students break the
cycle
(under construction).
Each
Lesson builds on the
prior ones, so start with
Lesson 1
Recap
This
page outlines the contents of a free, modular, seven-lesson self-improvement course. The
course is based on
31 years' professional research. It aims to help
people - specially parents - understand and break the lethal [wounds + unawareness]
cycle
that promotes all personal, family, and societal
problems.
This toxic cycle is silently spreading down our generations and
crippling our kids.
I invite your
feedback on any aspect of this course and site.
Thanks for visiting!
+ + +
Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this outline? Did you get
what you needed? If not, what do you need? Who's
answering
these questions - your
true Self,
or
someone else?
The Web
address of this outline is http://sfhelp.org/site/course.htm
Course
Outline 
This toxic cycle is silently spreading down our generations and
