Break the [wounds + unawareness] cycle! 

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        This directory provides links to:

  • information about this non-profit, divorce-prevention site and its author;

  • a link-index of topics covered in this nonprofit site;

  • information useful to any family

  • information about stepfamily facts, norms, dynamics, and development, and...

  • options for solving common family problems effectively.

About this Web Site

        This educational Web site exists to alert family adults, supporters, human-service professionals, and students to (a) the silent [wounds + unawareness] cycle that stresses many homes and families, and (b) promotes the tragic U.S. divorce epidemic, in order to (c) motivate them (you) to break the cycle, prevent family stress and divorce, and promote high-nurturance marriages and families.

        Learn..

  • how this site is organized

  • how to best use it,

  • the basic premises underlying it,

  • about the site's author, or browse his guidebooks. They integrate the basic information and resources in the site; and learn...

  • what you need to know to make best use of the hundreds of articles and worksheets here.

For perspective, see one couple's unsolicited reaction to this Web site.

Information for Any Family

        Compare these premises about normal personalities, relationships, grieving, solving relationship-problems, and family nurturance-levels, with your own.

Review introductions to the key concepts here...

Study...

  • these foundation articles that typical family adults and supporters can benefit from; and...

  • this glossary of 73 useful relationship and family terms

  • these questions you ought to ask about...


Study
these resources on effective communication and problem-solving:

  • premises about solving any relationship problem successfully, and see if you're focusing on the right (primary) problems.

  • review these slide presentations on effective-communication basics, and effective problem-solving. If you have trouble viewing the slides, see this.

  • summary of seven communication skills all family adults and kids need,

  • common communication blocks you're probably stressed by,

  • practical tips for effective problem-solving, and ...

  • three practical steps to improve your communication outcomes with any adult or child. One step is a self-study course on effective communications using Project-2 articles in this site.

Consider these ideas on why and how to have effective family meetings.

Meet a wise advisor you are responsible for - your future self.

Information about Stepfamilies, Courtship, and Re/marriage

Do you know who comprises a nuclear stepfamily?

Reflect on these benefits of living in a stepfamily (!)

Evaluate  these five hazards that promote stepfamily stress and re/divorce; and this summary of 12 ways adults can protect everyone against them

Review what you need to know before deciding whether to re/marry, including 16 danger signs, and six key courtship questions. Option: study this slide presentation on how to make three wise mate-commitment decisions

Read these suggestions for co-creating a successful stepfamily wedding. 

Investigate why and how to make an effective stepfamily mission statement.

Review these slide presentations on stepfamily basics and effective stepparenting.

Gain perspective from these summaries of (a) stepfamily facts and (b) implications, and (c) this example of a real stepfamily.

Overview basic information about stepfamilies, re/marriage, and co-parenting; and see a (partial) diagram of a typical multi-generational stepfamily.

Gain perspective on the typical adults and kids who form American stepfamilies.

Learn...

  • how typical multi-home stepfamilies can be just like intact biofamilies, while differing in over 60 ways!

  • how typical stepfamilies develop, and three common outcomes;

  • compare the developmental phases of typical stepfamilies and intact biofamilies.

  • about merging your three or more co-parental biofamilies successfully.

  • what typical dependent stepkids need, including effective discipline.

  • about effective co-parenting (bioparenting and stepparenting),

  • suggestions about effective legal co-parenting agreements

Review a sample four-part stepfather "job description," and use this inventory of typical co-parent responsibilities to help decide who should do what for which child/ren in your stepfamily.

Evaluate and download a free 8-module course for courting co-parents. It aims to prevent widespread stepfamily stress and re/divorce by illustrating seven safeguard Projects.

Review this link-index of all the worksheets, quizzes, and checklists in this nonprofit divorce-prevention Web site.

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Follow the links if you want to learn about...

  Solving Family Problems

Get a different perspective about your family-members' personalities (inner families) and how they interact.

  Test yourself: learn if you know enough about...

Tally and celebrate your stepfamily's strengths!

Study...

  • this comparison of common surface stepfamily-problems and the primary problems that cause them.

  • ideas on evaluating and strengthening your re/marriage.

  • practical options for resolving scores of specific (step)family relationship or role problems, including nine common barriers between co-parents (including ex mates).

  • these Q&A items about ex mates, and these options for getting along better with an ex mate.

Learn about acquiring effective support for you and your family, including how to organize an effective co-parent support group.

Browse helpful stepfamily resources, like publications, Web links, and games;

Learn how to (a) choose useful stepfamily books and effective counselors, and to (b) evaluate stepfamily advice.

Meet other co-parents online or send me a comment or question.

  Help prevent (re)divorce in your community or nation!

If you need something else, consult the site map or this index, ask me, or...

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-  Peter Gerlach, MSW; Founder, nonprofit Break the Cycle! project; Retired Board member, Stepfamily Association of America  

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