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"Crisis" means different things to different people. Here it means "someone believes that without immediate action by somebody, some catastrophe will oc-cur." The catastrophe may be the loss of one or more prized tangible or invisible assets like life, a relationship, health, integrity, trust, respect, safety, freedom, etc. Do you face a crisis now? Typical divorcing families and stepfamilies are very complex, and experience concurrent problems more often than healthy intact biofamilies. Average co-parents need to patiently learn a lot about stepfamily merger tasks, roles, relation-ships, structures, conflicts, and dynamics, before they can effectively reduce cur-rent problems in and between their kids' several homes. If you haven't had a chance to recently, try (a) finding a non-distracted time and place, and (b) dig-down to discern what you really need right now. Try saying out loud "I need ____ right now, or ____ will happen." If you still feel someone's phys-ical, mental, or legal welfare is in immediate danger, (c) call 911, your doctor, the police, your pastor or rabbi, therapist, and/or lawyer, in appropriate order. Often, "crises" are symptoms of two core problems: unawareness + someone's pers-onality is currently ruled by a chaotic, shamed, and/or terrified false self. If you feel intense fear that some personal or family catastrophe is about to happen unless you take immediate action, this site can probably not help you now - just as you could not read a manual and expect to fly a passenger jet safely the next day. The best time to learn from this educational site is in unhurried courtship. The next best time is when you're motivated to improve your health, relationships, and life-satisfaction, and/or raising young kids.. Note that Project 11 here is about getting effective support. Once your crisis resolves, please return and browse the site! |
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